Saturday, February 20, 2010

We live in a fishbowl!

Today Scott and I were asked to go to Rodger's flat for a chat. Rodger is the head director. We felt like we were being sent to the Principle's office. It turns out that there have been complaints about Daniel. He has a crush on Reesa and it bothers her roommates that he follows her around, sometimes into their room. (We don't allow him to go into the rooms or library) He will also pick things out of the salad bowl (which he gets reprimanded for), he sometimes puts his hands on the things they put out at breakfast time, (he gets in trouble for that too) and he runs around a lot. Sounds like any little kid to me. And Daniel is a very active one. I fought back the tears as we were talked to. Rodger could tell I was uncomfortable and went on and on about how we have every right to participate in things and how he doesn't want us to feel like we can't be involved. Why would he say that? Of course we have every right, that's just understood and shouldn't have even been brought up.

I cried and cried once we got back to our flat. It's really hard because some of the students LOVE playing with Daniel and encourage him. They play chase with him and hide and seek. They tease him, "play" chess with him, etc. etc. I had a girl the other day tell me she can't get him to love her. Like it was a competition or something. It's really hard to not take something like this personal. For me anyway. Scott isn't at all. He just thinks the students need to know we're trying. That once people know that, then they won't be so judgmental. He also said they complain about each other just as much if not more. He's right about that. He's going to announce some things about this during tomorrow's devotional. The kids and I won't come down until after.

*Sigh* I do feel like withdrawing from things. That's easier than being confused about what Daniel can or can't do. If I don't know the boundaries, then how can I teach Daniel. Some students like to play with him and some don't like it when he gets so wild. I don't either actually, but I like to see him playing with people. Scott will probably get feedback at the devotional and we'll take it from there. In the mean time I have to walk on egg shells and talk to Daniel before we do anything in the centre. I just want to go home right now!

3 comments:

  1. Oh Trisha, that's so sad. Hang in there!

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  2. Oh I'm so sorry! That must be really hard, Trisha. I don't know how you do it. I would have a really hard time. From one Mom-of-a-very -boy-boy to another, I know how you feel!

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  3. Sorry Trisha, I know how you feel. Leah was a pain a lot and I constantly had to rein her in from driving the students crazy! Hang in there. It's not as bad as it seems.

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